WWSD

What Would Sarah Do?  Ancient advice for modern times.

He loves me... He loves me not...

Dear Sivan,

A couple of years ago I confessed to my best friend that I was in love with him. He responded with many reasons that we should just be friends. I accepted this and we remained close. But recently things seem to have changed. More specifically, recently he seems to have changed.

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The Smart Way to a Responsible Open Relationship

Dear Sivan,

For many years my husband and I have flirted with the idea of being sexual with other couples. It was mostly pillow talk and fantasy, not anything I took too seriously. But recently, after a party thrown by some friends, we stayed over. Since actually taking the plunge, I am feeling very conflicted. There are parts of me that enjoyed the experience and parts of me that feel guilty, as if my husband and I betrayed our commitment to one another. My husband has expressed some jealousy at the thought of someone else being intimate with me, despite his actions. I am not sure how to make heads or tails of the experience, and I honestly don't know whether this is something I want in my life. What would Sarah do?  

Sincerely,

Scandalous in Scarsdale 

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How to Combat Injustice: On Being Ignored by Men

Dear Sivan,

My whole life I have felt like the odd woman out within a boys' club. As a child, in college, in my professional life, and in my family, I am often the only woman amidst a group of men. It is as if I am "permitted" to be near them, but am never truly one of them. They do not seem to hear me (and certainly don't listen) when I talk, my ideas and contributions are ignored, and it makes me feel invisible. But because they are my family, or my coworkers, or sometimes even my friends, I can't simply walk away.

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A Family Divided Over Israel

Dear Sivan,

Recently, I have felt alienated by the anti-Israel, anti-semitic content that some members of my family have posted on Facebook. It really hurts me, personally, to see members of my own family, of my own people, being openly anti-Israel. It hurts my heart. How is Israel supposed to make it if our own people are against us? My gut reaction is to un-friend them and not talk to them again, but they are family, so I feel conflicted.

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The Woes of Being Jewish

Dear Sivan,

My last name is Cohen. I was a student at Temple Beth Shalom and had my bat mitzvah in 1999. I am now 28 years old and have fallen in love with a young man who comes from Israel. My partner's family is not completely excited about his relationship with me because according to them (and to Israel)... I am not Jewish. My father is Jewish, but my mother is not.

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